Have you ever fallen so deep in love but later realized she is only using you and pretending to love you in return?
This is so unfortunate but a sad fact, people pretend a lot to love others just to get something they want. Many relationships out there are built on a false pretext whereas one partner may only be acting along so as to get some benefits (material or otherwise) from the other.
It may be money or riches, fame, status or even se×uaI gratification. Whatever they may want, some people can be patient enough to wait for as long as possible.
If you are a guy, how can you tell a lady who is only trying to use you, from the one who genuinely loves you? No mater how good a pretender she may be, there are some signs that may indicate she is only interested in something else and not truly in love with you.
1. Is she always absolving herself of her financial responsibilities?
Some ladies these days twist and misrepresent the feminist ideology to mean women are not made to work that hard to earn a living. They believe a man is supposed to take up all a woman’s financial responsibilities. If your girlfriend is this type, then she just may be using you to meet her financial needs.
2. She loves to shop on your credit card
She is working class and earns a pay enough to take care of her immediate needs but prefers to shop on your credit card. And she sees no shame in that, she enjoys doing it.
3. Is she always giving you excuses?
Sorry I can’t go out with you anymore. I don’t feel like going out, am having a headache or something just came up are only but a few excuses. A woman who is really into you says less of these phrases. No matter what, she would try as hard not to let you down.
4. And she would not even agree to go on a date in a taxi
I once dated a girl who would not go out with me if I didn’t pick her up. To her, that was the standard. After some weeks I discovered she was only the dating freak and she didn’t actually accept to go out with me because she liked the idea.
But true love should be able to ignore such side attractions. Love should withstand all, both rough and smooth times.
A girl who cannot take a taxi to be with you never truly loves you, she is only interested in something you have that is of benefit to her.
5. Her friends don’t like you
Trust me, if her best friends disapprove of you, there is much more than you know. Women gossip more and share every secret of the affairs they have with one another. They in turn unconsciously picture themselves in place of their Friend who is in the relationship and start acting like what they would have done if they were the one. If all her friends detest you, she may be feeling the same way but only pretending because she wants something else.
6. She only wants it when she wants it
When she wants it, you don’t have a say. And if she says NO, then that’s it. It doesn’t matter if you need it, all that matters is you must give it to her when she needs it else you’l blame yourself for the repercussions that may follow.
7. She is the only one making the calls
Her domineering nature is what decides whatever and whenever, making all the calls as if she is only doing you a favour by staying in a relationship with you. She acts like she’s got nothing to lose and you have everything at stake if she decides to quit.